Husband & I are renewing our wedding vows, Does the date have to be the actual date of your original wedding?
A question from a reader: My husband and I are wanting to renew our vows. What I am curious is, do we have to have the actual renewal date the same day as our Original date. Here is some background as to why I am thinking of a 2nd date.
My husband and I have had a very rough marriage. We are a combined family which adds additional stress., However, our kids have come together as a family. The one thing that we have done well is bring two families together. We have five (5) kids ranging from 11 to 18. We have separated, talked about divorce, stopped talking etc. However, that has now changed and we are working hard on our marriage as we have and still do with our children.
We decided to renew our vows as a kind of “start over”. However the date is the June and coming up with money to have a nice renewal is going to be hard. The date also falls on a Thursday, which our original day was Tuesday. We would like to have a reception, as we did not have one after the first. I also never danced at my weddings. The one with my EX or with my husband. I want to celebrate our renewal with a chance to dance with my husband, my father etc., I would like to have a cake and share this with friends. We thought about having the reception the next weekend, as the Saturday after, my beautiful step-daughters are in another wedding.
When my husband and I got back together after a year and half separation, we did so in May, but it wasn’t until August when we felt comfortable.
Can a couple have two anniversary’s? I realize the original is the true recorded date, but would it be “wrong” to renew on a different date that has meaning and hold the reception right after. Or do you think holding the renewal on Thursday (the date of the original wedding) and then hold the reception a couple weeks later is more appropriate?
My personal thought is, it shouldn’t matter and celebrating two anniversary’s would be fun and romantic.
What do you think? We also want to share this with our families as we had a sort of elopement. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Also we wore jeans shorts and shirt at our original, but I have purchased a dress for the renewal. This can give you an idea as to what kind of renewal I want and my husband is completely behind me.
If I did choose a date it would be a Saturday in August or September, but that only be a couple months a way. December would be 6 months, give more time (except is very expensive due to x-mas for 5 kids. We could wait until next year, but we run into graduation.
Ok I leave it to all of you for your input,
Thank you for your in depth answer. Besides the 1 1/2 year seperation, times did not get all rosey. However, we are sure attempting to get to know each other.
I don’t wear my wedding rings, because, well it doesn’t feel right. This even may not happen, time will tell. I am not to far into the event that I will lose any money. But far enough where we can have the renewal and have it be a family reconnecting and agreeing to come together as a family.
I can’t help but wonder where you are from as I am from Missouri. I know the Missouri River spans to other states, but just curious as to where you are.
***Everyone*** There are several months and dates that mean something to both of us, choosing one is like picking winning numbers on the powerball form. I want each date to mean something, Of course legally, our original date is our official anniversary, but I don’t believe you only celebrate one. Don’t some celebrate their first date, when they became engage