My boyfriend is Baptist and I am Christian Reformed?

A question from a reader: My boyfriend is baptist and I am christian reformed. Are there going to be issues with religion in our relationship? Any major differences about what we believe?

Thanks and all answers are appreciated.

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19 Responses to “My boyfriend is Baptist and I am Christian Reformed?”

  • Pooks says:

    dunno, you tell me

  • LuV f0я mан PєєP$ says:

    u is obv american coz british ppl r 2 cool 4 religion heres ma proof

  • Doug J says:

    Discuss these issues with him. How should we know?

  • Antithesis says:

    If you really have a good relationship and truely care about each other you wouldn’t mind the fact that you have different religions.

  • LadyBear says:

    How do religion and Christianity go together in the same sentence?

  • chazxoxo says:

    depends if you are very strict when it comes to religion, but you shouldn’t have that many differences because your both christian you just interpret the bible slightly different.

  • Jaymes says:

    I am Baptist and I consider myself to be a Christian.
    What you need to do is sit down and have a talk with hiim about each others beliefs as far as doctrine. Then decide for yourself. Decide if your chidlren decided to believe this or not believe that, would it bother you down deep? Even if you learn to live with it, and accept it, that’s not the same as approving.
    Speaking for myself, I don’t see a problem.

  • Caboose says:

    That’s something you should be discussing with your boyfriend, not with strangers on the Internet.

  • roshan says:

    do u love him thats important im also too religious but in matter of love becoz no religious person is going to give u food or money u urself have to work for it. so go on if u love him go on .
    god bless all

  • Gandalf's Ghost says:

    As long as you both agree with this…you should be fine.

    “The belief that a cosmic Jewish Zombie who was his own father can make you live forever if you symbolically eat his flesh and telepathically tell him you accept him as your master, so he can remove an evil force from your soul that is present in humanity because a rib-woman was convinced by a talking snake to eat from a magical tree…”

  • Moiraes Fate says:

    If you don’t know how to leave each other alone about the other persons religion, yes probably.

  • brooklyn says:

    I don’t think you will have any issues with religion in your relationship. I am Baptist and my boyfriend is Jewish and we don’t have any issues with religion. You just have to accept that your boyfriend and you might not agree on every little thing because your religion is different. I don’t think you will have any issues though.

  • Jojy John A. ♪ C.A.B† says:

    C’mon dont let religion come in between your love. After all, both of you follow Christ. Love also requires accomodating each other’s beliefs and values.

    Mutual respect is required for both your views.

  • JC Rules! says:

    I would say no, if you understand Jesus is the way. Nothing else is really worth arguing about.

    Lu:9:50: And Jesus said unto him, Forbid him not: for he that is not against us is for us.

  • Giovanni says:

    RELIGION in GENERAL is wrong,mankind WILL NEVER evolve or progress BECAUSE of religion!religion is slavery of the human mind!

  • Web says:

    The most important aspect in that regard is not which denomination you belong to: it’s whether or not you two have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

    1) If you both are, then there are many useful discussions you can have. Just because he is Baptist, doesn’t necessarily mean he subscribes to all or even most of their tenets. And even in that, what does one mean by “Baptist”. There’s Southern Baptist, GARBC, American Baptist, independent Baptists, etc. The reason there are so many “flavors” is because they normally sharply disagree with another one on at least one issue. But even within a denomination, people will disagree on those very views. Bottom line, each of you needs to develop what YOU believe, and what common ground you have. But at least the MOST important issue will be in harmony: being born-again believers.

    2) If you both are NOT born-again believers, then in this writers’ eyes, none of the rest matters. What one believes about church government, the end times, spiritual gifts, etc, is all well and good, but without knowing Jesus Christ personally, is becomes unimportant.

    3) If one of you is saved and the other is not, and you were to get married in that condition, it is what is called being unequally yoked. And yes, there will be problems. But again, not inherently because of your denominations, but rather in regard to one being concerned about the cause of Christ, and the other not being concerned about it. For true believers, Jesus will be a major priority in their lifestyle and their schedules.

    At the end of the day, if you are both committed to Christ, both committed to each other, and both committed to being good communicators with each other, the likelihood is very high that whatever doctrinal or practical differences you might have can be resolved, and you will choose where you two fit in in the Body of Christ. It may not be in either of your current denominations.

    One thing that would help is if you would say that each of you is fully committed to the denomination you identify with. Just as being in a garage doesn’t make you a car, so being a member of, for example, a Baptist church, does not necessarily mean you are a Baptist. Furthermore, with all due respect to my CRC brother, not all Baptists are 5-point Armenian (5-point = my words), etc. People are individuals, and it is dangerous to lump all of them together as if they all believed in exactly the same way, just because they belong to the same church or the same denomination. So again, it is important that you & your boyfriend drop the labels for sake of bringing light on exactly who each of you really are.

  • paula r says:

    yes/I have no idea what your religion teaches at all.

  • kj7gs says:

    I’m PRCA, which is close to CRC. Yes, you’re going to have problems, especially with your children and baptism. You will (or you’re supposed to) see it as a sacrament, a covenant sign and seal for your children, extended to them through sprinkling or pouring. And you have an incredible amount of Biblical support behind it — which your boyfriend will not see. To him, your children are automatically saved, and infant baptism is thus a waste of time. It’s adult baptism only for him, and although it doesn’t save you, it’s commanded by Christ. This of course leads to LOTS of beliefs that are going to conflict, to what degree has to do with how much each of you know — or care — about your theology.

    That said, you can both celebrate the risen Lord together, clasping hands of fellowship with each other in the love of God, singing your heart out, praying to the Lord, even doing some Bible study together. But at some point, you’re going to clash, things won’t sound quite right and you’re going to open a can of worms that will have you eventually saying no, this is not the God that you worship. Your boyfriend will be dispensationalist, probably antinomian, and definitely Arminian.

    I’d say to get this out front. Go to the baptist church with an understanding that they are NOT to proselytize you. Make it clear that you believe in covenant, Reformed theology, and you’d like to be respected for that. In turn, your boyfriend is to make things clear with your church, that he takes a different view — so getting into debates with other church members is not going to benefit either of you.

    I went to a Baptist church for about a year, and the pastor understood my views and we’re best friends and rib each other about our beliefs. If you can do this, and decide how religion will be expressed in your home, then it is workable. But it takes maturity and planning to do this. God bless your marriage — if it is right that He should do so!

  • don1862 says:

    You may have issues about baptizing your children. Baptists believe in adult Baptism by immersion. A Baptist parent will not want you to have an infant baptized like you do in the Christian Reformed Church. On most other doctrines, you will agree. Most Baptists will be be more aggressive at reaching out to non-Christians. But there ar so many Baptist groups, and not all will do that. kj7gs just before me has a good answer. Vote for his as the best so far.

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