PASSIONATE PLAY
Ah December! A time to connect with our playful spirits, exchange gifts, delight in sparking lights, dance with our favorite “nutcracker” , sing with a host of angels, and cozy up to a warm hearth.
Of course there are many ways to bring imagination and play into your love life. But since I specialize in “pillow talk”, let’s focus in on how we can create such a fun atmosphere with words as a primary component.
In my book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite and Enchant Your Lover with Words, I offer several sensual games for couples. Here’s one of my favorites::
The Mismatched Lovers Game: (Fantasy role play)
Each of you makes a list of ten pairs of unlikely lovers, putting each on a separate card or piece of paper. For example, you may come up with such pairings as a swashbuckling pirate and a shy librarian, a zealous evangelist and an exotic dancer, a school principal and a rock star. Or you may choose characters from history and literature: Cleopatra, Napoleon, King Arthur, Lady Godiva, etc.
Of course show biz celebrities, comic book characters or sports figures might be among the other category you’d enjoy. Whatever names you choose, make the pairing non-traditional, even a little bizarre. It will spark your imagination to figure out how such an odd pair would make love. And it will bring lightness and humor into your sex play
When you’ve finished listing ten such ludicrous pairs, fold the papers and place them in a container. Decide who goes first by flipping a coin. The winner pulls one of the sheets from the container and reads it aloud. He or she gets to decide which of the two characters he wants to play. The second partner must then become the other character and begin the scene.
For example, let’s imagine you’re both old movie buffs – and you come up with a combination of Groucho Marx and Mae West. Your partner, as bold, earthy Ms. West, might say (to paraphrase her famous line), “Why don’t you come up and kiss me right here (pointing to a special spot on her body), “and why don’t you make it right now?” You, as the wacky Groucho, might wiggle your eyebrows and reply, “Sure, baby. And where would you like me to park my cigar, while I nuzzle your neck?”
If you don’t feel comfortable role playing, or taking on the personas of other characters, that’s fine. There are many, many other types of games that can help you increase the element of fun in your sexual relationship.
One of my favorite board games is called SEXSATIONAL!. It’s a wonderfully easy way for lovers to share sensual fantasies and secret desires while finding out what really turns each other on. Players begin by writing down a “secret” fantasy desire they would like fulfilled by or with their partner at the end of the game. They then take turns picking “Opportunity” cards and trying to guess each other’s answers to interesting and provocative questions.
The first player to collect 7 “sensual points” wins and then reveals his or her fantasy desire, which the losing player gets to fulfill – if you can call fulfilling someone’s sexual fantasy “losing”.
I’ve discovered several savory resources that give both singles and couples the chance to get to know their partner more intimately in fun-filled ways including”l experience.
* A brand new way to play with a deck of cards that can bring about amazing climaxes
* An exciting game that leads to lovemaking in new places around the house
* A game that begins at a restaurant and the sex actions are determined by what’s on the menu and what the waiter says
* A guessing game that can have you burning with desire in just 10 minutes
So with the help and support of these inspiring games and guides or simply by using your own imagination, you can bring some sexy fun into your love making Give yourself and your partner the wonderful gift of playful passion during this festive time of year. Happy holidays.
